It is a sad state of affairs, that in society as a whole, the art of charm has all but disappeared. We see people all day, we talk to them, we conduct business with them, we may even hit on them, but we rarely charm them. In an age ruled by technology and social media, we are more connected with the World, but less connected with those around us. We do what we feel is in our best interest, rarely thinking about the interest of others.
Charm is a subtle art that few practice, and even fewer excel at. But what is charm? Most believe that it is synonymous with flirting and trying to impress the opposite sex, not understanding that the true definition is to give delight or arouse admiration. Think about some of the most charming people from history: J.F.K., Marlin Monroe, Elvis Presley, and Frank Sinatra. These icons all come to mind, and all had one thing in common. People were drawn to them. They left people feeling amazing inside and longing for more. Just being in their presence awakened something that was long dormant. Something that made the person feel special and wanted. This was all charm. They had all learned how to tap into this and have these qualities about themselves they worked on continuously. There are few traits that are absolutely irresistible, and learning how to get in tune with charm and put it in your arsenal will create a sense of irresistibility amongst your peers.
By mastering the art of charm, GENUINE admiration of others, we have the ability to bring a bit of style and elegance back to the World that is dominated by technology and dreariness.
“The key to such power is ambiguity. In a society where the roles everyone plays are obvious, the refusal to conform to any standard will excite interest. Be both masculine and feminine, impudent and charming, subtle and outrageous. Let other people worry about being socially acceptable; those types are a dime a dozen, and you are after a power greater than they can imagine” -Robert Greene