How society has taught you to act:
Most men go about their lives so worried about their schedule and what they are doing that it’s hard for them to take a few extra moments in each interaction to make it personal. Most men think they can be charming part of the time, when they choose, and don’t realize that it comes off as fake because it’s not their genuine self – it’s forced. They are charming only when they’re trying to get something, instead of adopting it as a way of being and incorporating it with everyone they meet. They don’t allow charm to be a critical component of their personality. Instead, men think the act of charming can only be used with women, rather than using it in all situations to make people want to be around them. They don’t realize that people like the escape of being brought out of their bubble or out of their heads and into the present moment. Charm has the ability to do this to almost anyone.
How the awakened male acts:
You see people’s ears perk up when he speaks. He has a way to always evoke a smile as he serenades with his words. He makes things personal and makes the person he’s talking to feel special. For that moment, all attention is on them. He makes his interactions stand out from everyone else’s. Anyone else the person comes in contact with throughout the day will not be the same as with the charming man. He’s genuine in the things he says and people can feel the authenticity in his words. He touches a spot internally in others and makes them long for more. This man takes time that’s not necessary to go out of his way to awaken feelings of value in each person he comes in contact with. A truly evolved man has a special way to brighten a person’s day the way others just don’t and it is all done with words and small actions.
“The key to such power is ambiguity. In a society where the roles everyone plays are obvious, the refusal to conform to any standard will excite interest. Be both masculine and feminine, impudent and charming, subtle and outrageous. Let other people worry about being socially acceptable; those types are a dime a dozen, and you are after a power greater than they can imagine.”
Charm is to seduction as lips are to kissing; without it, seduction is impossible. Charm has to be there, yet it comes in a million different forms. Personalities are all different, so individual charm varies person to person. The starting point is to tap into it and let it snowball into what it is meant to become. Your inner-self will tell you exactly the type and level of charm that is right for each situation. Some say that charm is a form of manipulation, which can have some truth, but when we speak from a place of genuineness, it changes.